Household Dilemma

[wjrwebber]

Currently I'm living with a guy and his girlfriend, but I was living there longer before his girl. On average, my girl comes around 2-3 times a week. Now it was all fine and well that she could come over when I first moved in as a mutual agreement.

Now the other night my girl was studying and needed as much quiet as possible. She asked the other 2 to turn the tv down (in a fairly polite manner), which at the time was quite loud. His girl then absolutely chucks a hissey about this like a 3yo. Even he knows she was going nuts, but he is that whipped now that he doesn't want to disagree with her.

So now, he wants to 'talk' about my girl coming over and that they would rather not it happen. When I get home from work, I'm getting ready for a verbal war which will nearly almost lead to me wanting to move out.

Any advice on this matter that someone else may have had experience in?

 

[Allstar cards inc]

Unfortunately it comes down to who paying the rent/bills...if it's just the 2 of you guys then it's a fair request (turning the TV down)...if it's you 2 guys and his GF then she is within her rights (although a little extreme by the sounds of it!!) If all 4 of you chip in then you've got a problem!!!
Ahhhhh...the joys of shared living....Good luck with it!!

 

[theflyinggerco]

Currently I'm living with a guy and his girlfriend, but I was living there longer before his girl. On average, my girl comes around 2-3 times a week. Now it was all fine and well that she could come over when I first moved in as a mutual agreement.

Now the other night my girl was studying and needed as much quiet as possible. She asked the other 2 to turn the tv down (in a fairly polite manner), which at the time was quite loud. His girl then absolutely chucks a hissey about this like a 3yo. Even he knows she was going nuts, but he is that whipped now that he doesn't want to disagree with her.

So now, he wants to 'talk' about my girl coming over and that they would rather not it happen. When I get home from work, I'm getting ready for a verbal war which will nearly almost lead to me wanting to move out.

Any advice on this matter that someone else may have had experience in?

I have had pretty much the exact same thing happen to me, expect it was my mates girlfriend coming around.

I can understand what your missus needed (just some quiet to study) but to be told to be quieter in your own home can tick some people off, regardless of how polite it is.

However, them wanting her not to come over is not on. She is your girlfriend, and im sure you would prefer that your mates girlfriend didnt live with you but she does and im sure you have had to make some concessions because it, regardless of the amount of money she pays on bills and what not.

The agreement that my mate and I made was that if his missus was coming around and staying 3 or 4 times a week (which she was), a nice brekkie or a dinner once or twice a week would be nice (i suggested this because she was a awesome cook); it also forced us to sit around together and get to know my mates girlfriend; not that it helped too much, she was a bitch

Hopefully it works out.

 

[hobbibox]

Kill them both while they sleep lol

I've had exact the same experience and I call it the "white picket pence" syndrome....you may as well move out now because your mates g/f already has in the back of her mind that her and ya mate will eventually live in this place alone and live happily ever after.....first it will start with gettin ya g/f to not come around ...then she will make it nigh..impossible with her attitude and bitching for you to stay there ...and then her mission will be complete and she will think she has the perfect life achived....living just her ya mate in a little house with a white picket fenceand no outside interference from any of his mates...

p.s I suggest accidental drowning. j/k

 

[theflyinggerco]

Kill them both while they sleep lol

I've had exact the same experience and I call it the "white picket pence" syndrome....you may as well move out now because your mates g/f already has in the back of her mind that her and ya mate will eventually live in this place alone and live happily ever after.....first it will start with gettin ya g/f to not come around ...then she will make it nigh..impossible with her attitude and bitching for you to stay there ...and then her mission will be complete and she will think she has the perfect life achived....living just her ya mate in a little house with a white picket fenceand no outside interference from any of his mates...

p.s I suggest accidental drowning. j/k

Go with Shoes idea... At least you will get your own place; it will be a prison cell and you may have to share it with a 6'6 150kg man called Shirley, but nonetheless, it will be your own place.

 

[ace e]

Kill them both while they sleep lol

I've had exact the same experience and I call it the "white picket pence" syndrome....you may as well move out now because your mates g/f already has in the back of her mind that her and ya mate will eventually live in this place alone and live happily ever after.....first it will start with gettin ya g/f to not come around ...then she will make it nigh..impossible with her attitude and bitching for you to stay there ...and then her mission will be complete and she will think she has the perfect life achived....living just her ya mate in a little house with a white picket fenceand no outside interference from any of his mates...

p.s I suggest accidental drowning. j/k

i agree with shoes except for the killing part .

 

[WoobieZarz]

Sounds like you moved in with your mate, so it's "his" place.

I'd just be cool, calm and make sure your point is heard.

If you guys were in the lounge when this "scene" happend, couldnt your girl have gone to your room or something, or the kitchen?

There's always a way to avoid comfrontations.

Good luck.

 

[nenjabin]

Cheap rent in jail too....

But seriously dorry to hear you're having troubles! I'm lucky, living alone so no dramas.

 

[wjrwebber]

Sounds like you moved in with your mate, so it's "his" place.

I'd just be cool, calm and make sure your point is heard.

If you guys were in the lounge when this "scene" happend, couldnt your girl have gone to your room or something, or the kitchen?

There's always a way to avoid comfrontations.

Good luck.

We were actually in my bedroom which is 20m away and through a wall. It was quite loud at the time and all was asked if it could have been turned down a bit. He didn't really seem to have a problem with it at the time until she went nuts and he had to put up with her..

I'm already preparing for the worst and moving out within sort of 2 weeks, even though I can't afford it as I don't have household items or a huge amount $ in the bank...

 

[The Truth]

I suggest you let your g/frined move in too, just as your mate's g/friend did lol, then see the s#@& hit the fan.
You need to talk to your mate about it, it's a 3-way deal.

BTW, did you or your girl ask for the 'favour'? I suggest you ask for it next time that would help to stop the drama too, or is your mate's g/friend a bitch to you too?